Hi, I’m Selah Cambias. I help parents get along better with their children by teaching them their personality types.
Have you ever found yourself saying:
- “Why is my child behaving this way?”
- “What did I do to cause this behavior in her?”
- “What was he thinking when he did that?”
- “I have a good kid, but sometimes she does such crazy things, and I can’t figure out where it’s coming from.”
- “I wonder what I should do to help him through this phase. He’s not really like every else.”
Or if you wanted to simply bring out the best in your children, and help them live more of their life’s purpose, then you’ve come to the right place.
Here’s how I help parents:
All of us, including our children, have a cluster of personality types, or archetypes, that we’re born with. Those types heavily influence everything we do. Things like our values, our talents, our desires, our weaknesses, our very view of how we interpret life’s events, is all part of the types we were born with.
I had spent years and years practicing using my own personality types, or archetypes, to help guide my own life when I stumbled on the realization that it worked brilliantly with my own three children. Once I noticed what types they were, my whole parenting style changed and WOW, they responded so positively, and with such sweetness. It was like they could finally relax and just be who they were because they didn’t have to try to show me any more. I knew.
So I set to work to share this with you. I wrote an award-winning book, to help parents find out what types their kids are and how to bring out the best in them.
The name of this manual is Family Types, A Guide to Better Parenting Using Personality Types. It can be found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and on your Kindle.
You see, I believe raising kids should be a heck of a lot of fun. Yes, hard work too, but fun. I struggled with my own three children for years until I discovered this method. And once I did, I realized I was spending so much time and energy trying to make them fit into “the ideal child” mold that I wasn’t really enjoying motherhood! All along, there was this beautiful side to them that was crying to be heard and I hadn’t been listening.
I discovered that when a child feels heard, understood and appreciated for exactly who they are, they feel loved.
And when children truly feel loved, they behave better, and are happier.
Happy kids = more fun!
I believe that if parents could understand the types their children were born with, they’d have an easier time parenting and getting along with their kids.
I believe that if parents only learned even a little bit about the types their children have, they’d be able to shift the challenges and create a truly joyful and fun relationship.
Here at SelahCambias.com I want to teach you how to find your children’s personality types.
So subscribe today (it’s FREE) and get the newsletter. It’s the only place to find this kind of information made just for children.
I know you’re a busy parent, so I don’t send anything I personally wouldn’t want to bother with.
And because I spent years getting to the heart of each type, I have turned this into real, practical help for parents. I send only real life suggestions that make sense to the modern mom and dad.
I’m a mom too. I have three kids, two boys and a girl. They’re 15, 13 and 11. I’m in the trenches and dealing with many of the same issues you have. I “get” much of what challenges us today and I’m constantly learning more.
And I’m having a great time, real challenges and all. It’s not perfect, but it’s so much better than I thought it would be 6 or 7 years ago.
May I share my story?
Back in 2009 I was a stay-home-mom of three energetic children. My oldest son had always kept me on my toes and I would often wonder why he behaved the way he did. He was a tough one. Honestly, there were days I couldn’t wait for him to just grow up. Sometimes my other two children would do things that upset me, and made me so frustrated I’d get steamed and exasperated. Parenting shouldn’t be so hard!
Earlier that year I had been studying to be an Archetypal Consultant, which is someone who helps people figure out their life’s purpose by learning their archetypes. I had worked with archetypes for nearly ten years and decided to delve in deeper with a certification. It works similarly to personality type tests, but more specific and detailed to the person.
So, on this day over six years ago, I had been watching my 9-year-old son boss around his younger siblings and wishing he would just do things himself. After all, he was older than them! I wished he would just leave them alone. Or just ask nice. Then it hit me – he’s a King type! Of course he’s bossing them around! He can’t help it! A-ha! Suddenly I didn’t need him to stop, but I realized I could help him do a better job, if I taught him to get people to follow him by asking respectfully.
I pulled him aside and shared my insights with him. I told him that I could see he had a King type and he would obviously be a leader when he grew up. (Oh, he liked the sound of that.) Then I explained to him that sometimes people are good leaders, and sometimes they are not such good leaders. Like a mean boss that no one likes, but they have to follow him anyway. (I could see he was taking this in.) I told him a good leader is compassionate and understanding, and people love to follow that kind. I said that it would be up to him what kind of leader he would be, and that although I couldn’t make him a good or a bad leader, I could help him learn the skills he would need to be a good leader if he wanted. (Oh yeah, he wanted that for sure.)
So suddenly, I’m no longer that mom that keeps telling him what to do, and criticizing him.
Instead, I’m that mom that’s teaching him important skills so he can be the best version of himself.
It just transformed us. It was the beginning of a shift that has made us partners in his upbringing. Of course we still have disagreements, but because I am willing to step back and see him for his types first, I can accept who he is without judgement. It’s at that point I can make the best parenting decisions that will bring out the best in him without sacrificing his true nature. He’s 15 now, and I thought I’d be in hell during these teen years with constant disagreements, but I’m not. We often talk and share our thoughts about his life. I know I can depend on him to help me see what really going on inside him, so we can understand each other better.
It’s good. It’s very good.
Although my other two children were “easier” kids, this system has help bring me closer to them too. When I talk with them about their types they light up and feel appreciated and loved. They’ve had their issues too, but knowing their types has helped so much.
My daughter has a Companion type and often struggles in friendship issues. It helps to know that she’s learning to care for herself and not just the other person. I worry less and can support her more.
My middle son has a Detective and although he’s nosey and sneaky I don’t loose my cool when I catch him. I know it’s who he is and besides – two can play at that game.
I’ve had this kind of experience over and over with my kids. And now parents come to me wondering what type does “this behavior” or “that behavior”? And when we look into it they say, “Oh yeah! That’s him!” or “Yup, that’s her!”
Then they say, “So what do I do?”
That’s where my book comes in.
I could do private coaching every moment I can find, but there are only so many people I can directly teach. I wanted to write down all the types and what’s good or not so good about each. I discovered so many sweet parenting tricks that worked wonders on each type and those needed to be written down and shared. It took me nearly three years of writing and rewriting and when Family Types published in the spring 0f 2013 it won a Silver IPPY award in Psychology and Mental Health. It’s the book I wish I had all those years ago.
Family Types contains 57 different types. Your children have about a dozen each. (Start with just a two or three and you’ll be amazed at how much it helps.) I broke down each type into five sections for easy access.
Section one of each type is titled, “Is this your child?” If it isn’t, you can skip it. If it is, then read more.
Section two is, “What brings out the best in this type?” We all want our kids to be at their best. But when they’re making us crazy it can be hdd to see what makes them special and wonderful. I had to put this second.
Section three is, “How can this type be a challenge?” This is the stuff that makes us frustrated and worried and tired and stressed. The not-so-fun part. We have to name it to address it.
Section four is, “Okay, so now what do I do?” This is the work that makes all the difference. This part is pure gold. Even while writing the book, I kept thinking, “Parents need to read this! It would make such a difference to know this!” It may not be easy, but it works because it’s tailored to the type!
Section five is, “How to be with this type.” I love this section, because with all the work we do to raise our children, we just want to be happy together. We want a meaningful and sweet, fun life as a family. We want them to grow up feeling truly loved and adored – heck, we want that too! When we can do this for our children, they start doing it for us, and they do it for others.
So if you want to get started, sign up for the newsletter, grab a copy of the book, and check out the tab up at the top that says ARCHETYPES. I’ve listed some great info about a bunch of them, and I’m always adding more.
I also have a great free video series that includes 10 short videos, over 30 different types, and my absolutely most favorite parenting techniques. It’s called “The 10 Elements of a Happy Family.” It’s at the top right of the Home page.
I have limited private consultations available, and you can access a 30-minute Free First Session by clicking the Contact tab at the top under Work With Me.
Up next – I’m creating a webinar for the fall of 2014 to help answer your questions about your kids’ types. If you’re signed up for the newsletter or the video series, you won’t miss out.
My goal is to help you get this information easily and effectively. My joy is to see families create happier and better relationships.
Welcome, I’m so glad you’re here.
See you soon,